Tuesday, July 31, 2007
GREETINGS FROM PAYLAR
I was so happy to run acrosss the blog exchange. I am honored to be joining the Sisterlock sisterhood on August 18,19, 2007. I found a wonderful consultant in Tucker, GA--Cia of Kinkyawakenings. So very excited to be starting this journey.
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
THE BEST REASON FOR NATURAL HAIR
That would be because of my 7 year old daughter. She's a beautiful little girl with a head full of curly, long hair (except where she and a friend chopped holes in it a couple years ago.) She's absolutely adorable in her afro puffs. Well, we're having hair issues these days. She attends a predominately white school, and I she wants her hair to look like some of the other little girls in her class--long and bone straight. So she likes to go to the hairdresser and get her hair pressed. It's about shoulder lenghth then. She wants it absolutley straight--no curls. Matter of fact, one day, when the hairdresser BUMPED her edges, she threw a major fit. Part of me wanted to wring her neck, the other part just wanted to cry.
And like the rest of us, she does the towel on the head thing sometimes. I understand--I've been there. I understand how images in the media (even of our black stars in their weaved glory) and what she sees around her affect her view of her hair. I try really, really hard to convey to her that her hair is beautiful--short and curly, or long and straight. I tell her that God gave her the hair that she is supposed to have--it's not supposed to look like everyone else's.
So, it dawned on m e one day, how can I, as her Mother and teacher, preach to her about accepting her hair, if I keep coming home with 'fake hair' in mine. I've got to practice what I preach. I'm thinking Sisterlocks will help me do just that.
And like the rest of us, she does the towel on the head thing sometimes. I understand--I've been there. I understand how images in the media (even of our black stars in their weaved glory) and what she sees around her affect her view of her hair. I try really, really hard to convey to her that her hair is beautiful--short and curly, or long and straight. I tell her that God gave her the hair that she is supposed to have--it's not supposed to look like everyone else's.
So, it dawned on m e one day, how can I, as her Mother and teacher, preach to her about accepting her hair, if I keep coming home with 'fake hair' in mine. I've got to practice what I preach. I'm thinking Sisterlocks will help me do just that.
Sunday, July 15, 2007
HAIRSTORY
My hairstory is similar to so many of the other stories that I have read fromt his wonderful group. I too, spent many a Saturday sitting in the kitchen while my Mother pressed my hair--exhaust fans, grease, burnt ears, that smell.....
I got my first relaxer the summer before my senior year--just in time for senior pictures. I thought I was hot stuff. Problem was, my Mother, bless her heart, couldn't stand the idea of paying someone $30 or $40 dollars every couple weeks to do what she felt she could do herself. Consequently I probably didn't go back to the hairdresser for almost a year, and by the time that I did, I had so many split ends that she just picked up the scissors and started cutting. I didn't mind that so much, but my Mother was furioius. She always wanted me to have long hair, like my sister.
But I got the short hair gene--like herself. I think her reaction to me was a little based on her image of herself--I look like her, have her hair. Don't think she liked that very much. Anway, my hair never grew passed my ears. And I was OK with that. I just thought--that's how it is, and that's how its gonna be.
I found someone to do my hair in college pretty cheap, so I went frequently--and I had the time to take care of it when I couldn't go. I liked how I looked with short hair.
Fast forward to getting married, and having a baby, my son--December 1997. I was on a very limited budget at that time, and my hair suffered. I got my first braided extensions soon after my second child, my daughter, was born. Looked OK, but I was never quite comfortable with suddenly having shoulder length hair. Just seemed kind of fake, and I felt like everyone who looked at me knew it.
I took the braids out, and made my way to the hairdresser for my next relaxer. This was October, 2000. The lady behind the chair had a beautiful textured natural. I remember telling her, "I wish I was brave enought to wear my hair like yours." Her reply was,"why don't you?" So, sitting in the chair, I decided, why not??--and she proceeded with the big chop. I really liked how I looked with my little fro--it was actually rather liberating. I was terribly nervous about going home, because I knew my husband was NOT going to be happy. Sure enough, I walked in the door, and his reaction was "What the h___ did you do to your hair??"
I wore my hair in various lenghts of a fro for the next five years. Sometimes natural, sometimes with a texturizer. Then I started getting restless. I decided to start trying some new looks. Bought a couple of wigs.
Got the corn rolls that made me look like I had plastic surgery, and caused bumps along my hairline.
Got my first sew-in weave. Let me tell you--this was THE WORST.
I had a picture of this cute, short curly style--I got this Chaka Khan (Love you Chaka), shoulder length thing. The beautician told me not to worry that the style was so far from the picture. She had been doing weaves for years, and knew what was best for my face and head. NOT!!! I left there physically in shock--my head hurt so bad, that I had to lay my head down in the passenger seat at every light. Once the pain ended, the itching started. By the time I took the weave out, I had pulled out two patches of hair on the top of my head. I said NEVER AGAIN.
I noticed in some of the posts--many of your had become frustrated with your natural styles, and either had, or were about to go back to relaxers. By this summer, I was acutally thinking of that myself. Being natural, didn't seem to be doing much more for my hair.... I thought well, maybe if I make sure I get it done regularly, the relaxer will be a good thing this time.
I consider myself a spiritual person. And I definitely know that God provides exactly what you need, exactly when you need it. My parents were vending jewelry for my sister at a Women's empowerment event in June 2007. Next to their table was a sister promoting Sisterlocks. My Mother took the information, and gave it to me. I spent the next two days reading websits and blogs, and absolutely loved what I saw.
I called on a Sunday, and scheduled my consultation for the next day. And here I am...
I think Sisterlocks really fits the type of life that I am trying to lead. I am trying to move past negativity, hurt, and pain that has plagued me for much of my life. Sometimes I think that I am this free-spirit, artistic, bold person trapped in this corporate, suburban,stressed out body and life. I think having Sisterlocs will be one way to let my true inner voice be heard.
(Sorry this was so long--forgive me for rambling...I'm just happy to be here.)
I got my first relaxer the summer before my senior year--just in time for senior pictures. I thought I was hot stuff. Problem was, my Mother, bless her heart, couldn't stand the idea of paying someone $30 or $40 dollars every couple weeks to do what she felt she could do herself. Consequently I probably didn't go back to the hairdresser for almost a year, and by the time that I did, I had so many split ends that she just picked up the scissors and started cutting. I didn't mind that so much, but my Mother was furioius. She always wanted me to have long hair, like my sister.
But I got the short hair gene--like herself. I think her reaction to me was a little based on her image of herself--I look like her, have her hair. Don't think she liked that very much. Anway, my hair never grew passed my ears. And I was OK with that. I just thought--that's how it is, and that's how its gonna be.
I found someone to do my hair in college pretty cheap, so I went frequently--and I had the time to take care of it when I couldn't go. I liked how I looked with short hair.
Fast forward to getting married, and having a baby, my son--December 1997. I was on a very limited budget at that time, and my hair suffered. I got my first braided extensions soon after my second child, my daughter, was born. Looked OK, but I was never quite comfortable with suddenly having shoulder length hair. Just seemed kind of fake, and I felt like everyone who looked at me knew it.
I took the braids out, and made my way to the hairdresser for my next relaxer. This was October, 2000. The lady behind the chair had a beautiful textured natural. I remember telling her, "I wish I was brave enought to wear my hair like yours." Her reply was,"why don't you?" So, sitting in the chair, I decided, why not??--and she proceeded with the big chop. I really liked how I looked with my little fro--it was actually rather liberating. I was terribly nervous about going home, because I knew my husband was NOT going to be happy. Sure enough, I walked in the door, and his reaction was "What the h___ did you do to your hair??"
I wore my hair in various lenghts of a fro for the next five years. Sometimes natural, sometimes with a texturizer. Then I started getting restless. I decided to start trying some new looks. Bought a couple of wigs.
Got the corn rolls that made me look like I had plastic surgery, and caused bumps along my hairline.
Got my first sew-in weave. Let me tell you--this was THE WORST.
I had a picture of this cute, short curly style--I got this Chaka Khan (Love you Chaka), shoulder length thing. The beautician told me not to worry that the style was so far from the picture. She had been doing weaves for years, and knew what was best for my face and head. NOT!!! I left there physically in shock--my head hurt so bad, that I had to lay my head down in the passenger seat at every light. Once the pain ended, the itching started. By the time I took the weave out, I had pulled out two patches of hair on the top of my head. I said NEVER AGAIN.
I noticed in some of the posts--many of your had become frustrated with your natural styles, and either had, or were about to go back to relaxers. By this summer, I was acutally thinking of that myself. Being natural, didn't seem to be doing much more for my hair.... I thought well, maybe if I make sure I get it done regularly, the relaxer will be a good thing this time.
I consider myself a spiritual person. And I definitely know that God provides exactly what you need, exactly when you need it. My parents were vending jewelry for my sister at a Women's empowerment event in June 2007. Next to their table was a sister promoting Sisterlocks. My Mother took the information, and gave it to me. I spent the next two days reading websits and blogs, and absolutely loved what I saw.
I called on a Sunday, and scheduled my consultation for the next day. And here I am...
I think Sisterlocks really fits the type of life that I am trying to lead. I am trying to move past negativity, hurt, and pain that has plagued me for much of my life. Sometimes I think that I am this free-spirit, artistic, bold person trapped in this corporate, suburban,stressed out body and life. I think having Sisterlocs will be one way to let my true inner voice be heard.
(Sorry this was so long--forgive me for rambling...I'm just happy to be here.)
MY VERY FIRST BLOG ENTRY
I was so happy to run acrosss the blog exchange. I am honored to be joining the Sisterlock sisterhood on August 18,19, 2007. I found a wonderful consultant in Tucker, GA--Cia of Kinkyawakenings. So very excited to be starting this journey. This is a picture of me in what I hope is the last wig I will ever wear. More pictures and more posts to come soon.
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